How do you tell your stylist you are unhappy with your hair?


When I think back to the years I spent behind the chair doing hair in my private studio, it feels like a different life. And in a lot of ways it was! While I miss the connections with my clients and seeing so many of them on a regular basis, I cannot see a time that I will return to doing hair in the future. I’m not saying never, but for now I think that chapter of my life is closed.

Regardless of that fact, I still have about 10 years of experience to draw from when I’m asked questions from readers about how to handle tough situations in the salon.

I got an email recently from a reader asking the following question:

“I just spent a few hours at a salon getting my hair cut and colored. The total was close to $350 and I’m really dissatisfied with the color. You can barely tell a difference and I’m not sure what to do! I never want to go back there because I’m not confident that the stylist knows what she’s doing, but I feel totally screwed. Is there anything I can do in this situation?”

I felt for her because I’ve been there. I’ve gotten beauty services done (from pedicures to massages) that are less than enjoyable and I feel like I completely wasted my money afterwards. Plus, it feels weird not to tip so it’s even more frustrating that there is an expectation to tip on top of a service that you didn’t enjoy. I haven’t had personal experience with having my hair not turn out the way I wanted, but I can certainly understand the frustration!

If it were me, I would recommend calling the salon and talking to the manager or owner. Take a bit of time to calm down if you are emotional, so you can speak calmly and rationally to the manager and owner. Explain how you feel and ask what they can do about the situation. If they ask you to come back in (and I hope they would!) take them up on that and ask the person you spoke with on the phone to be present when you show up. I wouldn’t be surprised if the manager asks for the stylist who did the work to take another look at your hair and explain her process so they can try to understand what happened.

Sometimes a miscommunication in the consultation can lead to poor results, and other times the stylist may have made a mistake or not known how to achieve the look you wanted. The more thorough the consultation, the better. My hope would be that your displeasure with the results was simply from a miscommunication with the stylist, as that would signal an innocent mistake that is easily fixable.

In an ideal situation, you would be offered a free service to try to make adjustments to get closer to what you were expecting. But it all depends on the salon’s policies and each individual situation.

The easiest way to avoid this happening again in the future is to go to a stylist who you were referred to by someone you know. Bring photos in for your consultation so he or she can SEE what you are talking about, instead of you simply trying to describe it!

p.s. one of my favorite cozy sweaters!

On receiving a compliment and coconut oil-based beauty


This post was sponsored by Kopari Beauty, all opinions are my own. 

I got into makeup at a young agebut it’s always been an artistic and creative outlet for me. There have been  seasons where I felt more reliant on it than others, but I can say with confidence that the older I’m getting, the more I’m embracing my makeupfree, or very minimal makeup, face!
One of the nicest compliments I’ve received lately is how good my skin looks when I’m not wearing foundation, and specifically how cute my freckles are! The sun always brings out my freckles, so after a family trip down south a few weeks ago, my freckles are standing out quite a bit more than normal.

I really like my frecklesso it was nice to hear that someone else was inspired that I embrace them instead of trying to hide them. In case you need that reminder for yourself today, embrace your freckles!

Coconut Face Cream, Coconut Cleansing Oil, Coconut Rose Toner, Lip Glossy

I was excited to try out some products from Kopari Beauty, which all contain100% natural coconut oil. Kopari does their best to keep their products as natural as possible without compromising on performanceAs the natural and green” beauty market is expanding, I’ve enjoyed trying out skincare products that align with that goal!

I’m very picky about face cream and was pleasantly surprised when this cream was hydrating but didn’t leave any kind of shine behind. Sometimes when you hear the word oil,” you expect products to look or feel greasy on the skin. That is not the case at all!

I also really liked the Coconut Rose Toner as a refresher. These are great products to use in the summer when my makeup has melted from the heat and humidity, but I want a refresh without caking on another layer of foundation.

After browsing the Kopari website, I’m tempted by the Coconut Power Couple, which is a body scrub and balm to soften and hydrate your skin. You can also try all 4 of the products shown in the photo above by picking up the Coconut Skincare Essentials Starter Kit!

This post was sponsored by Kopari Beauty.


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Thoughtful, Personalized Jewelry


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About five times a year I’ll reach for a statement necklace or earrings but the rest of the time I keep my jewelry choices pretty simple and minimal. If there is ever a time that I forget to put on jewelry, I feel completely naked.

I love the modern approaches to personalized jewelry. It’s a sweet way to wear something that is meaningful to you while still being understated with your jewelry choices. I found a lot of great options for personalized jewelry on Etsy, and there are also so many small businesses with beautiful instagram feeds showing the simple designs you can buy as well.

I believe one of the first personalized pieces of jewelry I got was an initial necklace from Maya Brenner. I have one with a “J”, and another one with “D” & “L”. When we name the newest baby, I’ll send the necklace back to have that initial added to it!

My sister made me some circle pendant necklaces with the boys’ names on them, and I wear those quite often. Most recently she made me a smaller version with just their initials on a round disk.

Mother’s Day is coming soon and a thoughtful piece of jewelry may be the perfect thing to get for your own mother, or another mom that you know and love!

p.s. check out this cute watch to pair with your personalized jewelry and these perfect sandals for spring or summer!

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